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How Do I Teach A 5yr Old 100% Responsibility

How do I teach a 5 year old 100% responsibility? When I first saw this question I thought it was a rhetorical one. But in looking at it again I realized that it is an excellent opportunity to talk about parents and teachers managing their expectations of children. Last night I led a seminar on Child Abuse Detection and Prevention. Since I only had an hour I really zeroed in on some of the things that parents aren’t really aware of that increase the probability of child abuse taking place. Listed below are some things that parents should know to decrease the odds of child abuse occurring in their homes.

 Understanding and Gaining A Knowledge of Child Development

It is a lot easier to manage our expectations of our children when we know what to expect. We can therefore prepare in advance and avoid making mistakes that we might regret. For instance, often times parents want children to respond and react immediately, as if they were in the military. They want their children to jump to it like a Jack In The Box and when this doesn’t happen they immediately become frustrated and upset. If they understood that it takes children a couple of moments to respond this would instead help parents to stay calmer.

Children also will test limits and boundaries, are very curious and experimental and are in a constant state of discovery as they learn how to act and be in the world. They are also trying to manage themselves and their emotions. They are tempted constantly and sometimes cannot resist the temptation.


Although they appear to have boundless energy they are intermittent movers which means they run around or play, play, play then they need to rest, rest, rest and depending upon the demand of the activities on their bodies, they may need rest quicker and longer. They are also not able to sit and be still for long periods of time and are not going to be very cooperative if they have any needs that are not met.

These needs are sleepiness, hunger, over stimulation, boredom, fear, independence or needing their mommie or toy, these are only a few. Many times parents do think about physical needs but sometimes forget about social and emotional needs. This requires planning and organizational skills on the part of the parent. So no going to the grocery store right after picking them up from the preschool, or running numerous errands. In spite of you telling them ” When we get in this store don’t ask for anything!” They are going to want or ask for something or¬† throw a tantrum.



So to answer the question about how do you teach a 5 year old 100% responsibility, you start with yourself by making sure that you have realistic expectations of your child. Ask yourself is there something else contributing to my child acting this way.If you are unsure there are many books on the subject of child development and you can also search the internet. Although I am sure every parent knows that the goal is 100% responsibility, they should also know that they cannot expect it 10 0% of the time.

Lastly, starting with you means making sure your own needs are met also. This means getting proper rest and nutrition along with drinking plenty of water and moving your body. Making time for just you, doing something that you love and is fulfilling is also very important. Incorporate both fun and stress reducing activities into your day, don’t wait for the weekend or a spa vacation or your day off. Plan times through out your day even if it’s only once a day where you are feeding your spirit.

I hope this helps and if not please let me know and ask your question directly. I will be more than happy to share my expertise with you. For over 20 years I have worked with children from infancy to 12 years old and have acquired a lot of knowledge. In addition, to maintain my credential as an Early Childhood Consultant and Trainer I am required to take professional development classes which I would take anyway. Just leave your reply and I’ll get right back to you. Have a great day.



2 Responses to “How Do I Teach A 5yr Old 100% Responsibility”

  1. Wow, great article! That’s an excellent point about being realistic about what is age-appropriate for your child. Also, remembering that you’re teaching them the correct behaviors; they didn’t come out knowing how to act already.

    • D'TaRelle F. Tullis says:

      Thank you so much Katie S. for stopping by and adding your wonderful perspective! You are so right children did not pop out of the womb knowing how to act. It is our job to teach them and have patience through out the process. That’s the operative word “process”, it is a process not an event as my Ballet Master you to say to us all the time. Thank you so much Katie for contributing and please come back again. :-)

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