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Is It Developmental or Behavioral: Children’s Misbehavior


One of my greatest honors is teaching babies and boys!!! They both tickle me so much. Today I was teaching my students about their bodies and force. They were learning how to roll a ball to the other side of the room. They had to figure out how much force to use to get the ball to the wall. So of course these little cuties pies started throwing the ball at the wall , kicking the ball, balls were flying all over the place I was cracking up.


I had to stop the class and the music 3 times to explain the instructions and how it was to be done, and that if I saw a ball flying through the air, it was flying right back into my bag. Everyone complied except two little boys, so the balls went flying back into my bag. Well of course you know those boys had the fit of life, crying and carrying on. I explained in a calm voice what I had said earlier and said now they had to watch. They were not happy about that at all.

They both sat out one song, after which I asked did they want to try it again. The purpose of them sitting and watching was not to punish them. In watching the other children they could learn how to do the activity.  I once again explained the instructions. One little boy was able to do it. The other one sent the ball flying into the air again at which point I realized that he just didn’t know how to do it. So his teacher and I showed him how and broke it down so he could see what was happening.


Because I work solely in private schools and early learning centers, it is important for me to understand when a child is really misbehaving and can understand what I am asking them to do or when it is a situation where the child doesn’t have the capability to carry out a task because it is beyond them developmentally. We don’t expect babies to run  or hop or skip. You may say that’s a physical thing, but this happens physically, emotionally, socially and in other ways.

As educators and parents we have an opportunity to look further and ask is this a behavioral problem or are my expectations too high for what the child can actually do.  Asking this question opens up many opportunities to make things better and easier for both the child and us. Once we know the answer we can respond appropriately and in the best interest for everyone.


This is why I love my job so much. Sometimes things children do are not out of misbehaving but because they are not quite there developmentally. As Educators it is our job to know the difference and then support them in working on and mastering what it is we are teaching them. HOT DIGGITY!!!! I LOVE MY JOB!!!!!!! ♥♥♥

Giving Children A Chance: Disciplining So They Get It

My sessions are designed to contain structured and unstructured activities. Even though an activity may be unstructured there is still  a desired objective I am trying to achieve. For instance,  since it is warm  and more children will be playing outside my children are working with balls.  My students love the character balls, the ones with Spider Man and Jake the Pirate and Dinosaurs etc.

My purpose for working with balls are:

1. To develop rhythm and timing.

2. Develop hand and eye coordination.

3. Develop and enhance focus and concentration.

4. To learn to react and respond immediately to the word “Stop!” Read more »

Teaching Our Children Correct And Acceptable Behavior Is A Process

Teaching is a process, not an event. Remembering this will help us to have more patience with our children and help us to manage our expectations of them.  And while I know all parents, teachers and everyone that works with children knows this, sometimes we need to be reminded of it. Listed below are two ways to make the process easier and to see results. Read more »

Eyes Of Love: Guiding Children’s Behavior

Sam is as red as a beet! He was really upset and it showed. One of the other students inadvertently bumped into him while having a blast dancing. We were doing their favorite, Dora the Explorer as well as Diego. All the children were enthusiastically dancing along, arms and bodies all over the place. Try as I might to give everyone their own space, some light collisions still occur as they learn what their bodies can do and explore space.

Seeing what happened, I explained  to Sam that Isaiah really did not mean to bump into him and that it was an accident. Sam was having none of it, all he knew was that he was bumped and that he didn’t like it. Off to a corner of the room he ran as the other children continued to dance. I followed him with my eyes so that I would know where he was and that he would be safe. I then continued to dance along with the other children.


Normally it is expected of teachers to run after the distressed student. Depending on the student, I do go after this students also. In Sam’s case this was not the first time something like this had happened. I also understand where Sam is developmentally and know that he needs to be allowed to express his feelings and not to be made wrong for doing so. And although running to a corner when all of us are suppose to be dancing was not the correct behavior at the time, it was important that I worked with him in a way that was a win-win situation for us all.

So Sam gets to learn that he gets to express how he is feeling and yet the class and fun still continues. He gets to make a choice of whether he wants to participate or not. My job as the teacher is to make it so much fun that he can’t resist coming back. This is one of the best techniques that I use to redirect children and get things back on track. It is also a way of  encourage him to come back and join us.


I could have made a different choice and run to Sam and asked him to come and join us, but to do that would require me to leave the other 8 students I was working with. Knowing Sam as I do he would have resisted and just run to another location away from me. So I knew that that wouldn’t work.

Since I know that behavior like this is just a need for further attention, I gave him that attention with my eyes. There is something so powerful about eye contact. People feel connected to you and feel that you get them and really see them. I both smiled at him and made eye contact with him. I held this eye contact for as long as he did doing nothing but smiling and dancing.


It only took a few seconds before he started smiling and rejoined our group. I was happy and he was happy. Our dance class continued and we all had a great time. I made a mental note to myself to remember this. To make sure that I let my students know they are liked and cared for unconditionally. I am on their side.

I have noticed that there are much less outbursts  from Sam. I feel this is because when children feel you are for them and don’t make them wrong and you have a connection with them, they are less likely to act out to get attention. They are already receiving attention in a positive way. What have you noticed? I’d love to hear about your experiences and your views. Please feel free to share them.

Saving Children’s Backs

I was in Best Buys the other day having my laptop worked on when I see this guy pushing twin girls on a cart. This was like a long cart that you would put something like a large flat screen television or something on. You were not able to see how adorable they were because their heads were down and they were deeply engrossed with playing with their tablets. They made the letter “C” with their bodies.

The dance teacher and mother were instantly awakened and screaming inside of me. “SIT UP STRAIGHT !!!!!!! HEADS UP!!! How long are they going to sit like that, I wondered and how long were they sitting like that before I saw them. Nothing against the dad,  I understand that he wanted to give them something to occupy themselves so that  he could shop with ease. I totally get that.

I also feel that aside from the fact that children are spending so much time with this type of technology and are doing it at younger and younger ages, we should still take precautions and make sure that it doesn’t do more harm than good.

So to parents, grandparents, godparents, and all people who are responsible for children and have them in their care. Please be mindful about children’s postures as they play with these games. Please do not let them be hunched over for extended periods of time. Help them by having them hold it in front of them in a way that their neck and back are in correct alignment. This goes for texting too.

Also limit the amount of time that they are allowed to engage with technology. Make sure they have some movement in their lives be it sports, games, fitness or things like dance, the martial arts etc. Skate boarding, bicycle riding as well as skating of all types are also great options for moving their bodies.

Taking these precautions will help prevent future and probably current back problems. By enjoying moving their bodies and being engaged in a different way will also help to ensure that you will have a happy, healthy and fit child.

What else do you think we can do to have our children engage in technology in ways that are not harmful to them? I would love to hear your comments and feedback. Please share them with us and have a great day! :-)