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What Is The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Child

As parents we want our children to have the best of everything and to have the desires of their hearts. We want them to be happy and healthy and to enjoy life and achieve their dreams. We also want them to be resilient and to know that they have what it takes to achieve those dreams. But did you ever stop to think how we can help that to happen or better yet to assure that this happens.

Some parents think that giving a child every single thing that they want is the answer to feeling loved and valuable. They think things make children happy, the best $300 sneakers, and iPod or that laptop or computer game. Yes these things make them happy but the happiness is fleeting and not lasting.

Some parents think that giving their child the best education possible going to the most prestigious schools with the highest reputation. I think that is wonderful and if you can do it by all means definitely do it. Still others feel that giving them as much money as they want anytime they is the greatest gift. I don’t want my child to want for nothing we say. I want my child to have better than I have.

But let me tell you something, when my little preschoolers are upset, or uncomfortable or tired they don’t say I want a computer game, or a new toy or sneakers. The first thing that they say they want is their mommy or daddy, most of the time it’s mommy. Yes you guessed it’s YOU. You are the most precious and greatest gift you can give your child. But my child has me you say I do spend time with my child. What do you mean?

Now I want you to be honest or you really there with your child 100 % totally present and engaged with your child. Or are you on the phone, computer, video game, watching t.v., or engrossed in the mountain of paper work that you bought home. Or the really big ones now, texting, email and social media.

We have a rule in our house of no cell phones at the dinner table. Everyone’s phone in our house has access to the internet. We are all busy individuals, my husband and I busy business owners and my daughter a busy teen. My daughter’s phone cannot even keep the charge because she’s on it so much. But I don’t care what’s happening you cannot check email, read texts or surf the net at the dinner table. You cannot take calls either.

As my daughter is getting older and everyone in our household is on a different schedule it gets harder and harder to have even one meal together as a family¬† and sometimes it doesn’t happen. But I never give up trying because I know that this is a rare bonding opportunity for me and my family. It’s a chance to catch up and find out what’s happening with everyone.

When I was a little girl I remember shows like Dennis the Menace, Father Knows Best and Leave It To Beaver. Those shows always showed the family having dinner together. I used to think it was so corny as a kid. But as a parent I really treasure it. It keeps our family connected and it’s great bonding. Both my husband and I love to cook and believe in home cooked meals so it gives us time to spend together also.

Whatever will work for you be it story time, walking or working out together or sharing a meal around the dinner table. Make sure that you get time in with your child looking them in their eyes and 100% focused on what they are saying. You can even schedule time around chores like folding laundry, preparing dinner or cleaning up after dinner.

If you do that you will be giving your child the greatest gift ever the gift of you. The gift of your time and attention. To a child this is priceless. In doing it make sure you are relaxed and not stressing or going through the motions. Children are very perceptive and pick up on these things. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time even if it is 5 to 10 minutes but done consistently over time adds up.

What do you do to spend time with your child. I’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment and share what works for you and your family.

4 Responses to “What Is The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Child”

  1. I really enjoyed your post you write about the important things in life. Juat to let you know I will be nominating you tomorrow for the Daisy Award. Well done.

    • D'TaRelle F. Tullis says:

      Awwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!Athena you made my heart melt!!!!! Thank you so much!!!!! for everything for stopping by and commenting and the Daisy Award!!!!

  2. I love to spend even a few minutes with my son before he goes to bed. You are also right about how perceptive they are. My son has told me more than once that I spend more time working than with him, so i try to take breaks when I can to read with with or watch TV.

    • D'TaRelle F. Tullis says:

      Jessica that is so wonderful and perceptive of you also. A+ for the effort and your taking action to make things better for you and your son. WOOOOOOHOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

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